Blood Pressure :: BP 210+/90 Nothing Working

I have some questions and I think I'm in the right place. My BP has been high for quite a few years. My old GP of 20+ years tried different meds but they all made me sick.Except Diovan, which I have been on for a long time but it stopped working. I am really sensitive to all sorts of stuff. He just retired and a kid fresh out of med school took his place. On my first visit, my BP was 211/90 and he freaked out and insisted I be admitted to the hospital for a few days. I refused and said lets just try a new med (or two) before we get too drastic. He agreed but wasn't happy. He gave me Amlodipine and that was the worst thing I've ever taken. I was short of breath, heart pounding, dizzy and weak and nauseous. Could barely get around. I thought I would die. It lowered my pressure to 180/90 and that was it. I stopped it after 10 days and told him I had too many side effects and it didn't work. I brought my BP monitor in and showed him. He acted like I was crazy for stopping it. Practically said it was all in my head. I said go tell that to my husband. He had to drive me here because I am too out of it to drive. He just shook his head and said OK let's try Clonidine. I said OK but only after this has cleared my system. It took 3 weeks. I'm not kidding. So I started the Clonidine 0.1 3xday. It worked good for 3 days. Pressure went down to 158/70. pulse down to 54. It's normally around 60. I was so out of it, I slept for 4-5 hours during the day and an hour after dinner. Dizzy and headache but no nausea or diarrhea. About 6 days later it stopped working. Pressure back up to 211/90 pulse back to normal (60). Blurred vision and headache. Still falling asleep all the time. Can't read, can't drive a car. Having trouble typing this actually. I sent him a fax this morning and told him it stopped working and I need to wean off. He called me right away and told me OK.. no need to wean off it. What? All I need is a rebound and my BP will be deadly (as if it isn't already) So he told me cut back to 2xday for a week and then 1x day for a few days. Then he said you need to try a Beta blocker and said metoprolol and he wants me to see a kidney specialist. Now I'm really scared and my BP is probably sky high. I'm too afraid to check it. My kidneys didn't look all that good on my last blood work so that's probably the problem. I've heard about stents but haven't found anything on these boards. I'm also worried about taking the Metoprolol in case it lowers my pulse way down. Oh, and he said there is no need to wean off that if you have too many side effects. I'm starting to think he wants me to die. I would like to force feed him some of this stuff.

A few things about me. I'm 67, have type 2 diabetes and have been on a low carb diet for 4 years. Blood sugar totally controlled. I weigh 115 lbs. I'm a nature photographer and WAS very active. I've been practically bedridden for the past 2 months on these meds and missed the entire fall bird migration, which is very upsetting. My husband took me birding last week and I fell asleep for most of the 3 hr. trip.

I am truly nervous about taking the Metoprolol. Anyone have any ideas? Also if anyone knows about kidney issues and HBP I would appreciate it. Thank you all so much for being here!